Ways to Help Young People Manage Screen Time

Screen time and kids is a frequent topic of conversation amongst parents. No matter the age of your kids, but particularly when they are teens it can be challenging for them and for you to control how much time they spend on screens, especially when social media, video games, and other apps are designed to keep them hooked. While teens may find it hard to pull away, there are ways to help them develop a healthier relationship with technology.

1. Start by Being Curious About Their Screen Use

Young people rely on technology for so much, whether it’s watching educational videos, exploring new interests, or staying connected with friends. The key to meaningful conversations with your teen about screen time is starting from a place of curiosity rather than criticism. Ask them about what they enjoy doing online and what aspects they find less satisfying. Encourage them to reflect on how certain activities, like scrolling social media or gaming, make them feel. These open-ended conversations can bring you closer and create opportunities to talk about boundaries in a way that feels collaborative, rather than like you're imposing rules.

2. Encourage a Balance of Activities

Instead of focusing on reducing screen time, it’s helpful to shift the conversation toward promoting activities that naturally limit screen use. Support your young person in balancing their day with activities that contribute to their growth—whether it’s dedicating time to schoolwork, spending time with friends face-to-face, participating in family responsibilities, or getting involved in hobbies and sports. When teens are engaged in a variety of fulfilling activities, they’re less likely to overindulge in screen time. It’s not about banning screens entirely but encouraging a life filled with diverse experiences that naturally lead to a healthier balance.

3. Lead by Example

Teens are more likely to follow our actions than our words, so modeling healthy screen habits is essential. It’s not just about setting rules for them; it’s also about practicing what you preach. For instance, if you want your teen to avoid late-night screen use, explain how you, too, avoid keeping devices in the bedroom at night to prioritize good sleep. You could say something like, “I leave my phone outside the bedroom at night because it disrupts my sleep, and getting enough rest is important for both my physical and mental health. I have this rule for myself, and I apply it to you because I care about your well-being.” This approach can help your teen understand that your rules are there to support them, not just restrict them.

Helping your young person manage screen time doesn’t have to feel like a battle. By engaging them in open conversations, encouraging a range of activities, and leading by example, you can support them in finding a healthy balance that works for them. Here’s to fostering a positive relationship with technology—for both you and your young person!

I’m a certified youth and young adult life coach and have worked with young people for over 20 years as a teacher, and leader in the youth development and leadership field. What I share in blog posts are a combination of my thoughts based on research and experience and are influenced by experts in the field. This blog is inspired by one of my favorites: Dr. Lisa Damour.